Exploring female domination, fetishes and role-play over the phone can be very fulfilling; however it can also be expensive. This article will help you get more bang for your buck and make your phone sessions better. Of course I love hearing your comments and ideas so please feel free to post them. I will also reply to questions posted here.

There are several reasons why men pick up the phone to call me. Some are curious having seen my photos, videos and articles for years and simply want to talk. Some men want to talk about their feelings and ask questions about their interest. Others want to get right down to it and use their call for masturbation. Which one are you?

It’s difficult for the lady on the other end to read your mind. There have been times when I misunderstood the intentions of my caller. I’m ordering some guy to strip when all he really wants to do is talk. This is why it’s important to communicate well. In the beginning of my conversations I always want the caller to tell me about himself. This normally takes 5 minutes and makes the call much better. Here is an example of how a caller might introduce himself;

“Hello Goddess, my name is William. I am 38 years old, single and I live in Dallas. I am 5’8, 180 pounds and I have blonde hair. I have been interested in female domination for 10 years.”

At this point I will ask questions like, “When you think about female domination what exactly comes to your mind?”

I want him to explain the visions and sensations he feels when he thinks about it or during his masturbation. I also want him to be honest and not tell me what he thinks I want to hear but what he actually thinks about. The lady you pay to speak to on the phone IS a professional and providing a service; however it is up to you to honestly articulate what you want from the service she provides. I prefer all expectations clearly out on the table. This is another reason I find the introduction portion of the conversation to be very important.

Even if your needs involve extreme humiliation and degradation it is important to articulate your interest. I absolutely adore humiliation and find it extremely hot if the dynamic is in place, however I’m only interested in a real dynamic that involves both of us getting what we want. This is why it’s important to explain the extremes or what your fantasies mean to you. In these cases I prefer to exchange a few emails and to keep the calls strictly fantasy.

The service I provide is fantasy exploration within female domination. When placing a call it’s important to have like interest. Straight sex calls are not interesting to me at all, therefore I don’t provide them. A woman that does not have experience or a true interest in female domination might not be able to adequately provide a good service for callers interested in exploring submission or taboo subjects. It’s important to choose people of like interest. If you’re not sure simply ask. Nite Flirt allows you to email the person you are interested in. Simply ask them if they are ok with the interest you outline. Don’t make it sound like you’re giving them a script to perform detail for detail but share some of your ideas with them and see if they would be interested in doing calls with you. This is also a good way to see if they have experience with your interest. A good professional will respond within a reasonable time frame. They will answer your questions and concerns. If they do not then they probably won’t address your needs.

Once you find a woman you are interested in invest the time and money in getting to know her and allowing her to know you. The more you explore the depths and meaning of your interest the more dynamic your calls will be. For instance I may have a caller that is into chastity and humiliation. The more I explore him and get an idea of where his head is at the more I am going to enjoy myself and the calls we do. The reason is that I WANT him to be inspired, excited and longing for me. Not only for professional/financial reasons but that I too want to make an investment into the relationship so that it’s pleasurable for me too.

Since female domination IS my thing in real life I appreciate the man that considers this even if he only dabbles in female domination as part of his sexual fantasy. He is polite and courteous using, “yes, Ma’am, No ma’am” and he “feeds into my energy rather then selfishly (or stupidly) focusing on his own needs. An intelligent man will quickly figure out that I’ve got something he wants and if he plays his cards right I will open doors for him that no one can ever understand. A smart man learns the strength and purpose in male submission.

Once you find one or several women you have a connection with stick with the relationship and build on it. If cost is a factor and you only have limited funds to spend per call or per month then email her and ask her advice on how you can best spend your money. You might even offer to pay a little less for email exchange to work out the details prior to your calls so that you spend less on the call. Again this is where you must be honest and forthright with your intentions. Don’t do this to be cheap and so that you can get obsessive with your calls. Just be honest and see if she is willing to help you with this. When you do a call show your appreciation with a tribute even if its only 5.00 it at least shows that you enjoyed the call and appreciate her. The more generous you are the more generous she will be. Not because she doesn’t care about you for anything but your money but that you’re also willing to put your money where your mouth is and invest in the relationship.

Another way to save money if you are on a budget is to invest in a custom recording that you can download and listen to over and over. Recorded fantasies are great. You simply close your eyes, take a deep breath and visualize. I often do this with my fantasy calls. I ask my caller to close his eyes and then I begin to describe a visualization he can follow. With just a little bit of practice, from both parties these visualizations can be very stimulating. You can practice this on your own by taking a few moments each day to take a deep breath, learn to relax and then imagine any object such as a leaf or tree. Imagine that you are the object and try and feel what that object feels like. For instance a leaf being blown by the wind or trees roots buried deeply into the ground. Feel what that object feels and explore that feeling as deeply as you are able. It all might sound silly but not only does it work wonderfully for fantasy visualization but your stress levels will drop significantly. This ancient Zen practice I have used for many years and often use this for my own personal fantasy exploration.  

A friend of mine asked me why I did phone sessions because she felt that I was catering to the sexual needs of men and performing for them. In a sense I am providing a service and it is sexual in nature, however my motivations are multifold;

1)    I truly do love female domination and support the lifestyle. It is important for me to help you explore what it is really about and to dispel some of the myths surrounding it. Female domination is a lot more then aggression. Being in control may be the umbrella, however under that can be many things; respect, passion, love, fear & more. It is by far the most complex of all relationships and for some of us the most rewarding. I want you to get a real glimpse into my world even if it is only a short time.

2)    I enjoy exploring different types of people. Because I am a complex woman my needs are almost insatiable. I have no interest in being with one lover and find that my needs are best served by many. Many of my phone slaves I often meet in person. We travel together, they come for a visit or we simply meet for a drink. Some of my best relationships were once with men I met doing phone sessions. After a time talking and exploring on the phone you build a trust and bond. Its only natural to want to take that to the next level. Then again I have many phone slaves I have never met & will never come in contact with. I enjoy speaking with the gentleman that is sincere about exploring my world. He follows directions and learns how to feed into my energy.

3)    Although I run several of my own businesses I enjoy the extra money and gifts. In my real life I expect my slaves to provide for me and help me pay my bills. In fact many of them also pay to speak to me on the phone.

I am happy to answer any questions you might have in email. If the reply is going to be lengthy I might charge you because I feel that I should be paid for my time regardless if it’s on the phone or email.

I also provide ongoing training which pretty much means we speak on a weekly basis with follow up email instructions. This gives you a more personal relationship in exploring what it might be like to really be a slave. I am always open to deeper relationships. If you are interested in taking this to the next level just call me and we’ll discuss it.

Good luck on your journey.

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